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David Shields’s  The Trouble with Men Reflections on Sex Love Marriage Porn and Power is an immersion into the perils limits and possibilities of human intimacy All at once a love letter to his wife a nervy reckoning with his own fallibility a meditation on the impact of porn on American culture and an attempt to understand marriage one marriage the idea of marriage all marriages  The Trouble. In his book The Trouble with Men Reflections on Sex Love Marriage Porn and Power David Shields suggestively points toward his modus operandi if you will classic Freudian paradigm less overt masochist as self characterized marriage as reenactment his parents doomed union The self referential notion of masochism riddled throughout the book becomes part mask in stark opposition to his naked confessional narrative style a smoke and mirrors techniue to cloak his deepest most guarded feelingsAs he uestions the allegorical you wife Are you in love with me Do you like making love with me Do you love making love with me he exposes a marriage seemingly devoid of baseline connectivity despite decades spent together Don t answer Shields says putting emotion aside flirting and fantasizing in a safe way outside of his marriage Why consider the complicated dissolution of things if we can coexist with private non threatening phantasms In framing his feelings with a certain existential angst Shields justifies his need to push the buttons of you Is this a love letter or is this a love barb of hope that you s voice will boomerang back with answers It doesn tThe uoted excerpts of other writers textured throughout the book further substantiate the masked unreliable narrative creating an uneasy tension with the reader at once universal the voice of a modern day Shakespearean chorus of sorts yet brilliantly crafted in such a way to allow Shields to distance himself from the emotion at task ie All relationships are miserable right Let us find beauty in the misery and not be so alone The underlying implication is that the writers snippets are Shields own words but the reader learns of the appropriation at the end of the lineparagraph Rather than openly suggest a separation or divorce it s interesting to consider that Shields might have written this book to prod you to make the ultimatum herself A tool of passive aggressive enablementThat said it s clear the stakes are high Let s find the pulse in our marriage but is you s indifference alluring or is it sadly abrading Does it create the real marriage Shields so desperately wants You has no photos of him in the house she does not hold his hand in public will not use the inclusive we and laughs when he sniffs her panties an erotic gesture on his part yet has no ualms asking demanding him to wear them I wasn t in love with you when we got married Shields says say what but I am now whereas I suspect the opposite is true for you The reader can only wonder if you has been long aware of his indifference and it s been payback time ever sinceWithin the first few pages what are we to make of the theatrical theoretical characters of Alan and Michelle who seem to almost stage the book We are privy to a romanticized if not psychosexual relationship if we are to believe our pronoun altering narrator of this story within the story relating to the real life cousin he collaborated with to write the real book That Thing You Do With Your Mouth but is there a deeper truth Shields is clearly cloaked as Alan stutterhis relationship to his mother but who is Michelle The Trouble with Men with its relentless investigation of reality versus fantasy love versus war me versus you is a maddening testament of the male psyche denial candor and an invigorating must read

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The Trouble with Men

Than a deconstruction of  eros and conventional masculinity Masterfully woven throughout is an unmistakable and surprisingly tender  cri de coeur to his wife The risk and vulnerability on display are in the service of radical candor acerbic wit real emotion and profound insight exactly what we’ve come to expect from Shields who in an open invitation to the reader leaves everything on the pag. An interesting possibly vital examination of human sexuality that includes much of the stuff that we like hearing the least Especially the parts about ineuality and domination It s also not actually about men but women too and how we seem to know so little about the most compelling thing in our lives I often wonder if this fog of war will ever be lifted or if we prefer to muddle like dissatisfied children forever The other surprise is the artsy collage of sources It s a bit like a broken term paper But very enjoyable though I m still after answers I don t know why men seek bjs and golf It also might be the most mature document ever prepared about love

David Shields ↠ 2 Summary

With Men is exuisitely balanced between the personal and the anthropological nakedness and restraint While unashamedly intellectual it’s also irresistibly readable and extremely moving Over five increasingly intimate chapters Shields probes the contours of his own psyche and marriage marshalling a chorus of other voices that leaven deepen and universalize his experience; his goal is nothing less. This book aims to be a short intensive immersion into the perils limits and possibilities of human intimacyIt is that description says it all albeit true via a stream of consciousness string of pearls mostly in the shape of uotes from a bunch of notables However the author s details are what s most interesting to meThere are loads of notes on the title such as this oneAristotle s theory of dramatic structure introduction rising action climax falling action d nouement is nothing or less than a diagram of the sexual act It doesn t mean the theory s true and it doesn t mean it isn t true It just means sex is everythingSeeing how men seldom reveal their emotions to each other and a lot of the time to themselves this book reveals insight into the mental activities proclivities and thoughts as strained through the author s mindI m riveted when people are forced to yield to the demands of war the moment in Hearts and Minds when two US soldiers fondling their Vietnamese prostitutes survey the centerfolds taped to the mirrored walls and for the benefit of the camera try to imitate heroic masculinityYou re frightened that you re going to see yourself there Or that you re going to find out what your husbanddad loverfriend thinks about you that s different from what you think about yourself Or that you re going to find out something about your spousechildparent you don t want to know Or worst of all that you re going to like it Sallie TisdaleAlfred Hitchcock whose mother would force him to stand at the foot of his bed for several hours as punishment and cold regal blondesBernie Madoff s mistress has a new book out detailing her affair with everyone s most hated financial advisor She notes that he has a small penis and while that didn t seem to inhibit their sexual pleasure she mentions it partially I assume in revenge for his treatment emotional and financial of her and partly because she thinks it may somewhat explain his personality Did Madoff s grandiosity emanate at all as compensation for his small penis Did he know that his wealth would help women overlook the fact that he was underendowed She seems to think so Or was he naturally arrogant insidious and pathologically unconcerned with the welfare of others Would he have behaved exactly as he did if he had a very large penis Pepper SchwartzIn short there are a lot of mini stories strewn throughout this book and it s not really provocative and neither is it sensational but it is interesting I like delving into these minds going for the small payoffs And they re not small in the sense that I didn t spend time thinking about them but I did which is the thing curt paragraphs tautly presented nicely stringed together in chapters that really made sense I highly recommend reading this bookWe are I know not how double within ourselves with the result that we do not believe what we believe and we cannot rid ourselves of what we condemn Michel de Montaigne


10 thoughts on “The Trouble with Men

  1. says:

    this NYT review decided meThe book is structured as an investigation into Shields’s own psyche and particular tastes He is masochistic to his marrow — not just sexually “I check the Mariners score on my phone hoping they’ve won but needing them to lose”Yep I need to read this

  2. says:

    In his book The Trouble with Men Reflections on Sex Love Marriage Porn and Power David Shields suggestively points toward—his modus operandi if you will—classic Freudian paradigm less overt masochist as self characterized marriage as reenactment his parents’ doomed union The self referential notion of

  3. says:

    An intriguing challenging book with the ups and downs of a rollercoaster I received an advance reader’s copy of this book; I was immediately drawn in by the subject matter in the title At its best the book is vulnerable and unflinching Speaking directly to his wife the author puts himself on display without any of the posturing typical of masculinity in our culture The third chapter on sex is the most intimate thing I’ve read

  4. says:

    Fucking hell what a boring book

  5. says:

    The Trouble with Men is a letter to Shields’ wife a kind of dramatic monologue which asks the uestion how am I in love—in attraction turned on turned off—with you and how are you in love with me—turned on turned off It seems to addres

  6. says:

    This book aims to be a short intensive immersion into the perils limits and possibilities of human intimacyIt is; that description says it all albeit true via a stream of consciousness string of pearls mostly in the shape of uotes from a bunch of notables However the author's details are what's most interesting to meTher

  7. says:

    Imagine you're on an airplane in the small middle seat reading David Shields' slim latest book The Trouble with Men And i

  8. says:

    I enjoy reading profanity in books This book really does not hold back I enjoy the reading of those sentences from all types of individuals that I would not have heard from if it was not from this book One thing that really stuck with

  9. says:

    An interesting possibly vital examination of human sexuality that includes much of the stuff that we like hearing the least Especially the parts about ineuality and domination It’s also not actually about men but women too and how we seem to know so little about the most compelling thing in our lives I often wonder if this fog of war will ever be lifted or if we prefer to muddle like dissatisfied children

  10. says:

    I think sometimes that Shields conflates his own urge toward self destruction and risk with all men's but how cou